There are not many people who would set out to be in a long distance relationship, more often than not they just happen. Whether you started chatting online and fell for each other or met at college and had to go your separate ways at the end of your course, whatever reason you have found yourself in a position where you are considering if it’s right for you, we’re here to tell you that it can work. It might be hard, it might take an extra commitment from both sides but it can also be incredibly amazing and make your relationship even stronger in the long run. We’ll run through the pros and cons so that you can judge for yourself if it’s right for you and your significant other.
You get a break
In a long distance relationship, you get all the benefits that having a partner brings, love, support and the physical stuff whilst also enjoying plenty of time for yourself. You don’t constantly have to think about what your partner is doing and feel guilty about not spending time with them. You are free to concentrate on your career or go out with friends whenever you feel like it, so long as you do make time to communicate with your partner that is.
It means so much more when you’re together
When you do get to meet up you will both recognise that it is important, you will cherish every moment that you spend together. You will enjoy your intimacy so much more, just because the excitement will have been building up and you know from your time apart how much you will miss your partner when they have gone. You will hold on to every kiss, cuddle and touch. Just being together will feel amazing in the way that it does at the start of a relationship, couples who are together all the time just won’t get that.
It builds commitment
Think about it, you wouldn’t be in a long distance relationship with just anyone, it most certainly wouldn’t be worth the hassle (which we’ll get to that in the cons) unless you were absolutely crazy about your partner. It can be a wonderful feeling to know that your partner must feel the same way, that they want you so much that they are willing to put up with the distance to really build something with you for the future. Long distance can be romantic and beautiful and can lead to a life-long relationship.
There’s no getting away from the fact that if you are in a long distance relationship you are going to be spending a lot of time alone. This can work for some who like their own space but for others, it can be incredibly difficult. It can also lead to resentment. Imagine, for instance, that you are struggling, that the loneliness is totally getting to you but your loved one is out with friends so you can’t even talk to them on the phone. It’s not their fault but it can be frustrating and can lead you down paths where you convince yourself they are never there for you. When you are in a long distance relationship communication is key, you will need to talk to your partner about your feelings as soon as you can to stop that resentment from coming between you.
It’s so expensive
If you live on the other side of the country to your loved one, you are going to spend a fortune just in travel costs to see each other. Plus, when you are together the whole event will be like one long date, think trips out, meals in restaurants or hotel stays, those expenses are going to mount up. You could try and have dates on the cheap and if it is necessary then you can make it work but you should remember that your time is limited and that you do need to make the most of it where you can. Talk to your partner about finances and agree together what you can afford to do.
Keeping your connection
Many people talk about couples in a long distance relationship drifting apart. The consensus seems to be that if you don’t see each other every day, communication will eventually break down and that couples will become tempted with what is in their nearby vicinity. This doesn’t have to be the case but it will require hard work. You will need to keep communicating with your partner and keep that spark alive. You will need to make time to have meaningful conversations with your partner and you will need to iron out any misunderstandings with them straight away rather than allowing them to fester. You can make it work, but you will have to put time and energy into keeping that conversation alive to strengthen the bond between you even more.